Jewellery stolen from baby Telan Carlton’s grave in Fulford Cemetery

Kia Carlton at the grave of her baby daughter, Telan

Kia Carlton at the grave of her baby daughter, Telan

First published in News York Press: Photograph of the Author by , Chief reporter

A MOTHER has called for tighter security at a York cemetery after treasured toys and jewellery were stolen from her baby daughter’s grave.

Kia Carlton, whose daughter Telan was buried at Fulford Cemetery in 2012, said she would like to see the gates locked when it is officially shut in the evening to reduce the risk of people getting in and taking items.

She also felt CCTV cameras might be needed in the area where children are buried to help deter and detect thefts, and said she would be prepared to help raise funds to pay for them.

Kia, 26, from Clifton, whose baby died at York Hospital after suddenly being taken ill at the family’s flat in Chapelfields, said items stolen included small fairy ornaments, a metal butterfly lantern, a doll and a pendant necklace, given to Telan as a Christening gift by her mother, June.

But the final straw was when a Tatty Teddy went missing recently. “None of them are of great value, but they’ve got huge sentimental value,” she said. “It feels like the grave has been looted. What happened to RIP?

Kia’s mother June said: “When you have lost a child, you have a hollow feeling that never goes away and this really hurts.”

Telan’s godmother Donna D’Arcy said: “I find it absolutely disgusting.”

Kia said she had discovered other people had had items stolen from graves.

The Press reported last week how a golden chain and locket had also been stolen from a woman’s parents’ grave at the cemetery.

Alan Smith, chairman of Fulford Parish Council, which is responsible for the cemetery, said it was not practical for the pedestrian gate to be locked, as no one lived on site any more.

He also did not want people travelling long distances to visit graves only to find the gates locked. He said the matter would be discussed at a parish council meeting on July 1.

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9:33am Thu 26 Jun 14

X5019c says...

I am very, very sorry that her daughter died, I cannot imagine the pain she is suffering, but graves should not be adorned like shrines. Keep her treasured toys and jewellery at home where you can look at them and remember her.
I am very, very sorry that her daughter died, I cannot imagine the pain she is suffering, but graves should not be adorned like shrines. Keep her treasured toys and jewellery at home where you can look at them and remember her. X5019c
  • Score: 96

9:46am Thu 26 Jun 14

clm058 says...

Sad and not a nice thing to happen, but is it wise to leave valuables in full view in a public place, keep them at home. some of these head stones are like over the top shrines its unnecessary.
Sad and not a nice thing to happen, but is it wise to leave valuables in full view in a public place, keep them at home. some of these head stones are like over the top shrines its unnecessary. clm058
  • Score: 72

10:15am Thu 26 Jun 14

inthesticks says...

What sort of low life scum steals from a baby`s grave. Let`s hope there is such a thing as karma.
What sort of low life scum steals from a baby`s grave. Let`s hope there is such a thing as karma. inthesticks
  • Score: 33

11:25am Thu 26 Jun 14

smudge2 says...

I agree with you but turning a scared burial place into a shrine is not in keeping with its purpose .We have lost two children in the family at early ages and they were buried with a simple cross and head stone.When you walk round some graveyards it saddens me that some families seem to want to compete to see who grave is the most decorated and the problem will only get worse as the years go on unless some regulations are put in place. Nobody wants to deny a families grieving process but other peoples loved ones are also buried in this cemetery as well.
I agree with you but turning a scared burial place into a shrine is not in keeping with its purpose .We have lost two children in the family at early ages and they were buried with a simple cross and head stone.When you walk round some graveyards it saddens me that some families seem to want to compete to see who grave is the most decorated and the problem will only get worse as the years go on unless some regulations are put in place. Nobody wants to deny a families grieving process but other peoples loved ones are also buried in this cemetery as well. smudge2
  • Score: 57

12:55pm Thu 26 Jun 14

mummyoftt says...

Ok so it's not a shrine what about the rest of stuff that has been taken.I know some people.like a plain standard grave but that is not for all
Telan was a bright and bubbly beautiful baby so why shouldn't she be allowed to have a bright bubbly grave without low life's thinking it acceptable to loot it. People shouldn't have to lock up her stuff at home. We should be entitled to tighter security for them.we pay more than enough and never expect a young one.to go first so y can't they lock the gates and let them rest and be safe
Ok so it's not a shrine what about the rest of stuff that has been taken.I know some people.like a plain standard grave but that is not for all Telan was a bright and bubbly beautiful baby so why shouldn't she be allowed to have a bright bubbly grave without low life's thinking it acceptable to loot it. People shouldn't have to lock up her stuff at home. We should be entitled to tighter security for them.we pay more than enough and never expect a young one.to go first so y can't they lock the gates and let them rest and be safe mummyoftt
  • Score: -27

1:52pm Thu 26 Jun 14

eeoodares says...

Not a lot of point in locking the gate, the site is surrounded my a small fence. You would need to either make the place look like Full Sutton or stop covering headstones in jewellery and soft toys.
Not a lot of point in locking the gate, the site is surrounded my a small fence. You would need to either make the place look like Full Sutton or stop covering headstones in jewellery and soft toys. eeoodares
  • Score: 30

3:48pm Thu 26 Jun 14

only human says...

My late son was 17 when he died in a tragic road accident in York and he is buried in the same cemetery as Telan as are numerous other late family members including my own brother and a niece a nephew and a cousin who were all victims of sudden infant death syndrome and are also buried in the babies/childrens section of the cemetery.
I dont think we have had any major problems in respect of items going missing from the graves apart from my sons grave where we had a couple of dinky motobikes replicating the one he owned that went missing.
I say missing because i do like to think that there really cant be any one out there just stealing from graves.I do accept that we put things in the cemetery at our own risk and it is too vast a place to have a reasonable security system in place.
That said however ,it is news to me that the cemetery gates are no longer locked on an evening as they still have the opening times plaque at the entrance so when did all this change.
A few years ago myself and my 2 daugters stupidly managed to get locked in the cemetery grounds along with an elderly couple and as i had left my mobile fone in the car we had no way of getting out as the daylight faded.
We hammered frantically on the door of the adjoining house but no reply.In the end we managed to find a lowish part of the wall and between myself and this elderly gent we managed to get my 2 girls over the wall and then the poor old lady who was fortunately fairly sprighty and we then clambered over ourselves before having a chuckle about it.
Seriously though it must be an incredibly difficult job for the gardeners to have to trawl through the mass of decorative ornaments toys and memorabilia on display at the cemetery and it would be understandable to think that some smaller items may just get gobbled up by the lawnmowers especially if the local wild rabbits have been nudging things around to get to the flowerheads.
I have all but given up with the fresh flowers as within a couple of days the rabbits have eaten the petals and all that remains are the stalks.
Whilst i have every sympathy with the family of Telan i do think a common sense approach is needed.Be sensible about what items you chose to display on the grave and also try to understand that even with the gates locked there is no guarantee that items will not go missing.
We are 11 years on with our grieving and there is no greater loss and pain than that of a parent for a child.
We just feel we still need to look after them even after they have left us.Its human nature.
My late son was 17 when he died in a tragic road accident in York and he is buried in the same cemetery as Telan as are numerous other late family members including my own brother and a niece a nephew and a cousin who were all victims of sudden infant death syndrome and are also buried in the babies/childrens section of the cemetery. I dont think we have had any major problems in respect of items going missing from the graves apart from my sons grave where we had a couple of dinky motobikes replicating the one he owned that went missing. I say missing because i do like to think that there really cant be any one out there just stealing from graves.I do accept that we put things in the cemetery at our own risk and it is too vast a place to have a reasonable security system in place. That said however ,it is news to me that the cemetery gates are no longer locked on an evening as they still have the opening times plaque at the entrance so when did all this change. A few years ago myself and my 2 daugters stupidly managed to get locked in the cemetery grounds along with an elderly couple and as i had left my mobile fone in the car we had no way of getting out as the daylight faded. We hammered frantically on the door of the adjoining house but no reply.In the end we managed to find a lowish part of the wall and between myself and this elderly gent we managed to get my 2 girls over the wall and then the poor old lady who was fortunately fairly sprighty and we then clambered over ourselves before having a chuckle about it. Seriously though it must be an incredibly difficult job for the gardeners to have to trawl through the mass of decorative ornaments toys and memorabilia on display at the cemetery and it would be understandable to think that some smaller items may just get gobbled up by the lawnmowers especially if the local wild rabbits have been nudging things around to get to the flowerheads. I have all but given up with the fresh flowers as within a couple of days the rabbits have eaten the petals and all that remains are the stalks. Whilst i have every sympathy with the family of Telan i do think a common sense approach is needed.Be sensible about what items you chose to display on the grave and also try to understand that even with the gates locked there is no guarantee that items will not go missing. We are 11 years on with our grieving and there is no greater loss and pain than that of a parent for a child. We just feel we still need to look after them even after they have left us.Its human nature. only human
  • Score: 29

5:48pm Thu 26 Jun 14

Mullarkian says...

Just stop people making graves look like hoop-la stalls and this would not be an issue.
Also, all this junk on graves makes cemetary maintenance harder.
Just stop people making graves look like hoop-la stalls and this would not be an issue. Also, all this junk on graves makes cemetary maintenance harder. Mullarkian
  • Score: 22

9:37pm Thu 26 Jun 14

little Miss Grumble says...

My babys grave is not a shrine and has only a couple of things on it. I do expect to be able to leave a vase of flowers and an ornament chosen by my daughter there without it being moved.
My babys grave is not a shrine and has only a couple of things on it. I do expect to be able to leave a vase of flowers and an ornament chosen by my daughter there without it being moved. little Miss Grumble
  • Score: 11

11:30pm Thu 26 Jun 14

Bad magic says...

Whilst I find the adornment of graves in this way incomprehensible, I would never presume to tell someone that they shouldn't do it.
I would certainly never remove anything from a grave, and consider doing so utterly uncivilised (to say the least!) and grossly insensitive. Almost inhuman.
A terrible loss has been suffered by this family, and grief is expressed in as many different ways as there people in this world. Be kinder to one another.
Whilst I find the adornment of graves in this way incomprehensible, I would never presume to tell someone that they shouldn't do it. I would certainly never remove anything from a grave, and consider doing so utterly uncivilised (to say the least!) and grossly insensitive. Almost inhuman. A terrible loss has been suffered by this family, and grief is expressed in as many different ways as there people in this world. Be kinder to one another. Bad magic
  • Score: 6

10:37am Fri 27 Jun 14

steve_york says...

probably the halfway house right next to the cemetery, theres been a few break ins around fulford over the past weeks I'm told, but nothing will be done, sorry to hear this very sad news created by some sad person/s that don't deserve to be around...
probably the halfway house right next to the cemetery, theres been a few break ins around fulford over the past weeks I'm told, but nothing will be done, sorry to hear this very sad news created by some sad person/s that don't deserve to be around... steve_york
  • Score: 0

11:34am Fri 27 Jun 14

SB Dubs says...

I was under the impression the gates were locked at either 5pm during the winter or 8pm during the summer,:as it says on the board. If anyone wants to get in they can easily jump over the wall. You should be able to place what you like on a headstone, but some people do go over the top in Fulford cemetery. Needless to say, people shouldn't steal things. As for cctv I dont think grieving people need to be watched bybig brother
I was under the impression the gates were locked at either 5pm during the winter or 8pm during the summer,:as it says on the board. If anyone wants to get in they can easily jump over the wall. You should be able to place what you like on a headstone, but some people do go over the top in Fulford cemetery. Needless to say, people shouldn't steal things. As for cctv I dont think grieving people need to be watched bybig brother SB Dubs
  • Score: 7

2:42pm Fri 27 Jun 14

bekki87 says...

Why shouldn't we be allowed to place what we want on our families graves, that we pay for! I'd understand if they were free but they aren't, our babies headstone was expensive and then we had to pay for the plot and then an extra £90 on top of all that! In the past we've had items stolen, washing up liquid (yes thats right) poured all over my sons flowers and all in his vases, So it doesn't matter if we just put flowers or not, some little thug who clearly isn't being raised properly to respect other people properties is going to ruin it! Instead of expanding the cemetery why not spend the money making the fences taller and getting someone to lock the gates! And maybe ask the people who work there to tell the kids who i see in there regularly to leave and play in the park opposite rather than playing football in the cemetery,
Why shouldn't we be allowed to place what we want on our families graves, that we pay for! I'd understand if they were free but they aren't, our babies headstone was expensive and then we had to pay for the plot and then an extra £90 on top of all that! In the past we've had items stolen, washing up liquid (yes thats right) poured all over my sons flowers and all in his vases, So it doesn't matter if we just put flowers or not, some little thug who clearly isn't being raised properly to respect other people properties is going to ruin it! Instead of expanding the cemetery why not spend the money making the fences taller and getting someone to lock the gates! And maybe ask the people who work there to tell the kids who i see in there regularly to leave and play in the park opposite rather than playing football in the cemetery, bekki87
  • Score: 1

7:02pm Fri 27 Jun 14

lunalouie says...

i am the lady that had some items stolen from my parents grave at fulford cemetery york between thursday the 12th and friday the 13th of june. i am wanting to contact this lady that had items stolen from her baby's grave kia carlton. just can't believe this is happening again if somebody could help me to make contact with her i would be most grateful. as they say parish
i am the lady that had some items stolen from my parents grave at fulford cemetery york between thursday the 12th and friday the 13th of june. i am wanting to contact this lady that had items stolen from her baby's grave kia carlton. just can't believe this is happening again if somebody could help me to make contact with her i would be most grateful. as they say parish lunalouie
  • Score: 0

7:07pm Fri 27 Jun 14

lunalouie says...

if somebody could help me please i'm wanting to contact kia carlton the items stolen from her baby's grave. i am the lady had some items stolen from my parents grave between the 12th and 13th of june 2014.i believe there is a parish council meeting been held on tuday the 1st of july 2014. if anybody could help me to contact kia carlton , i would be most grateful.
if somebody could help me please i'm wanting to contact kia carlton the items stolen from her baby's grave. i am the lady had some items stolen from my parents grave between the 12th and 13th of june 2014.i believe there is a parish council meeting been held on tuday the 1st of july 2014. if anybody could help me to contact kia carlton , i would be most grateful. lunalouie
  • Score: 0

3:51pm Sat 28 Jun 14

mummyoftt says...

I know the person LunaLouie. She on Facebook
I know the person LunaLouie. She on Facebook mummyoftt
  • Score: 0

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