What a nation of wimps we are

SO NOW there many teachers suffering from “stress” and in need of counselling and apparently they are not alone.

There are few situations when the modern answer is not counselling, from children who have accidents, married couples who have problems and soldiers who have come home after service abroad. How on earth did the older generation, in which I am now proud to be counted, cope all those years ago?

Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day.

It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive. It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death.

And for brave men it was living from day to day never knowing when your last hour would come – and afterwards, building and repairing the dreadful damage left by the bombing and starting anew with no such thing as counselling. What a nation of wimps we have become.

Heather Causnett, Escrick Park Gardens, Escrick, York.

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9:56am Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

"Well said heather,no doubt some of the posters will be up in arms".
"Well said heather,no doubt some of the posters will be up in arms". CHISSY1
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12:09pm Thu 22 Nov 12

YSTClinguist says...

Surely no one can reasonably compare living conditions during the Total War of 67 years ago to conditions during peacetime modern England today. It's almost as if it's being used by the Have's as an excuse for suffering of the Have Not's.

Go back a war and the lack of acknowledgement and inhumane treatment of those suffering from 'stress' (PTSD/shell shock) was criminalise the victims and to put a bullet in them.
Surely no one can reasonably compare living conditions during the Total War of 67 years ago to conditions during peacetime modern England today. It's almost as if it's being used by the Have's as an excuse for suffering of the Have Not's. Go back a war and the lack of acknowledgement and inhumane treatment of those suffering from 'stress' (PTSD/shell shock) was criminalise the victims and to put a bullet in them. YSTClinguist
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12:38pm Thu 22 Nov 12

J-Dawg says...

But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it.

"Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day"

That's not stress, that's being scared.

"It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive."

Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours.

" It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death."

That was, as you rightly stated, dread.
But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it. "Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day" That's not stress, that's being scared. "It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive." Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours. " It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death." That was, as you rightly stated, dread. J-Dawg
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12:46pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Stevie D says...

It must be nice to be retired and not have to go to work every day worrying about the day will bring. Being divorced from the real world, we don't expect you to understand what employment is like these days, but I think it's fair to say that the pressure is almost certainly of a different magnitude to what you experienced. Teaching is a very high pressure job – not only are teachers working very long hours (and don't give us that crap about finishing at 3.30 and long holidays) but they are under immense pressure to maintain high standards, and the day job is difficult and intense. When you've got a class of 30 kids in front of you, there's nowhere to hide, you have to perform all day long, as well as dealing with very difficult and sometimes traumatic situations. There are very few other jobs out there that have such sustained pressure, and I'm not at all surprised that teachers are going off with stress – not helped by reactionary idiots like you who rant and rail at how slack teachers are without having the faintest clue what life is like at the chalkface.
It must be nice to be retired and not have to go to work every day worrying about the day will bring. Being divorced from the real world, we don't expect you to understand what employment is like these days, but I think it's fair to say that the pressure is almost certainly of a different magnitude to what you experienced. Teaching is a very high pressure job – not only are teachers working very long hours (and don't give us that crap about finishing at 3.30 and long holidays) but they are under immense pressure to maintain high standards, and the day job is difficult and intense. When you've got a class of 30 kids in front of you, there's nowhere to hide, you have to perform all day long, as well as dealing with very difficult and sometimes traumatic situations. There are very few other jobs out there that have such sustained pressure, and I'm not at all surprised that teachers are going off with stress – not helped by reactionary idiots like you who rant and rail at how slack teachers are without having the faintest clue what life is like at the chalkface. Stevie D
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12:48pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Stevie D says...

PS, Heather – do you actually believe these Daily Mailesque letters you write, or do you only send them in because The Press keeps asking you to write something controversial to wind people up?
PS, Heather – do you actually believe these Daily Mailesque letters you write, or do you only send them in because The Press keeps asking you to write something controversial to wind people up? Stevie D
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12:49pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Firedrake says...

In any case, much depends on the personalities of the individuals concerned. Different people are stressed by different things. I spent a year doing a difficult and dangerous job with a real risk of death or serious injury on an almost daily basis: I loved every minute of it! Whereas I had previously taught for a few years in secondary school which almost reduced me to a gibbering wreck. I've known decorated ex-servicemen reduced to tears by a class of thirteen year olds and I've seen a softly spoken old lady put the fear of God into a gang of hulking teenagers with a mere look.

So no generalizations, please!
In any case, much depends on the personalities of the individuals concerned. Different people are stressed by different things. I spent a year doing a difficult and dangerous job with a real risk of death or serious injury on an almost daily basis: I loved every minute of it! Whereas I had previously taught for a few years in secondary school which almost reduced me to a gibbering wreck. I've known decorated ex-servicemen reduced to tears by a class of thirteen year olds and I've seen a softly spoken old lady put the fear of God into a gang of hulking teenagers with a mere look. So no generalizations, please! Firedrake
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12:53pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

J-Dawg wrote:
But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it.

"Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day"

That's not stress, that's being scared.

"It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive."

Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours.

" It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death."

That was, as you rightly stated, dread.
"You haven't a clue what you are talking about".
[quote][p][bold]J-Dawg[/bold] wrote: But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it. "Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day" That's not stress, that's being scared. "It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive." Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours. " It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death." That was, as you rightly stated, dread.[/p][/quote]"You haven't a clue what you are talking about". CHISSY1
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1:08pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Buzz Light-year says...

CHISSY1 wrote:
J-Dawg wrote: But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it. "Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day" That's not stress, that's being scared. "It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive." Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours. " It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death." That was, as you rightly stated, dread.
"You haven't a clue what you are talking about".
Chissy.
Either you meant to say "I haven't a clue what you are talking about" or you are Mr Nasty.

Instead of just being flippantly nasty to people, why don't you explain WHY you think J-Dawg doesn't have a clue?
Why don't you address the points not the person?

Mr Nasty you are.
[quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]J-Dawg[/bold] wrote: But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it. "Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day" That's not stress, that's being scared. "It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive." Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours. " It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death." That was, as you rightly stated, dread.[/p][/quote]"You haven't a clue what you are talking about".[/p][/quote]Chissy. Either you meant to say "I haven't a clue what you are talking about" or you are Mr Nasty. Instead of just being flippantly nasty to people, why don't you explain WHY you think J-Dawg doesn't have a clue? Why don't you address the points not the person? Mr Nasty you are. Buzz Light-year
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1:18pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Buzz Light-year says...

Heather Causnett hasn't a clue.

I call a kind of Godwin's on this letter.

Ok we're not naming Hitler but she does use the extreme case of The Great War as an example why modern peacetime teachers are wimps.
Totally incompatible comparison.

You know what Heather? It hurt indescribably when I had my heart attack. I've never felt anything like it. I was convinced I was going to die.
Now don't you dare ever say even the slightest little thing about your arthritis or the aches and pains of old age because if you do you're just being a wimp.

I know real pain. Proper old-fashioned pain. Not like this namby pamby modern day pain people whinge about.


Anyway, if HC wasn't so busy with all this skewed rose-tinted Daily Mail nonsense and if she thought about it she might have recognised the countless cases of PTSD, the mental illness, alcoholism, wife-beating, suicides etc etc that were the real human reaction to what happened in the middle of last century.
Only a few escaped with their stiff upper lip completely intact...
Heather Causnett hasn't a clue. I call a kind of Godwin's on this letter. Ok we're not naming Hitler but she does use the extreme case of The Great War as an example why modern peacetime teachers are wimps. Totally incompatible comparison. You know what Heather? It hurt indescribably when I had my heart attack. I've never felt anything like it. I was convinced I was going to die. Now don't you dare ever say even the slightest little thing about your arthritis or the aches and pains of old age because if you do you're just being a wimp. I know real pain. Proper old-fashioned pain. Not like this namby pamby modern day pain people whinge about. Anyway, if HC wasn't so busy with all this skewed rose-tinted Daily Mail nonsense and if she thought about it she might have recognised the countless cases of PTSD, the mental illness, alcoholism, wife-beating, suicides etc etc that were the real human reaction to what happened in the middle of last century. Only a few escaped with their stiff upper lip completely intact... Buzz Light-year
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1:47pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

Buzz Light-year wrote:
Heather Causnett hasn't a clue.

I call a kind of Godwin's on this letter.

Ok we're not naming Hitler but she does use the extreme case of The Great War as an example why modern peacetime teachers are wimps.
Totally incompatible comparison.

You know what Heather? It hurt indescribably when I had my heart attack. I've never felt anything like it. I was convinced I was going to die.
Now don't you dare ever say even the slightest little thing about your arthritis or the aches and pains of old age because if you do you're just being a wimp.

I know real pain. Proper old-fashioned pain. Not like this namby pamby modern day pain people whinge about.


Anyway, if HC wasn't so busy with all this skewed rose-tinted Daily Mail nonsense and if she thought about it she might have recognised the countless cases of PTSD, the mental illness, alcoholism, wife-beating, suicides etc etc that were the real human reaction to what happened in the middle of last century.
Only a few escaped with their stiff upper lip completely intact...
"You call me nasty,why do you say that i was merely agreeing with Heather,you got a problem with that.Now look at your post regarding Heather.Rude and offensive,you are not a very nice person and we don't want to know your medical history,it is totally irrelevant".
[quote][p][bold]Buzz Light-year[/bold] wrote: Heather Causnett hasn't a clue. I call a kind of Godwin's on this letter. Ok we're not naming Hitler but she does use the extreme case of The Great War as an example why modern peacetime teachers are wimps. Totally incompatible comparison. You know what Heather? It hurt indescribably when I had my heart attack. I've never felt anything like it. I was convinced I was going to die. Now don't you dare ever say even the slightest little thing about your arthritis or the aches and pains of old age because if you do you're just being a wimp. I know real pain. Proper old-fashioned pain. Not like this namby pamby modern day pain people whinge about. Anyway, if HC wasn't so busy with all this skewed rose-tinted Daily Mail nonsense and if she thought about it she might have recognised the countless cases of PTSD, the mental illness, alcoholism, wife-beating, suicides etc etc that were the real human reaction to what happened in the middle of last century. Only a few escaped with their stiff upper lip completely intact...[/p][/quote]"You call me nasty,why do you say that i was merely agreeing with Heather,you got a problem with that.Now look at your post regarding Heather.Rude and offensive,you are not a very nice person and we don't want to know your medical history,it is totally irrelevant". CHISSY1
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2:10pm Thu 22 Nov 12

alfie says...

I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter. alfie
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2:18pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Even AndyD says...

Medics tell us that within twenty years, anxiety or/and depression will be the normal human state. Already six billion anti-depressant prescriptions are written in the world each year.
The problem has nothing to do with being 'wimps'. It is to do with the pace and expectations of living a 21st Century life that our bodies and minds simply were not programmed for.
It is a 24/7 culture were every job has stats and performance criteria to match or you are out. It is a life of high mortgages and the real possibility of homeless. There are so many other factors, some of them self-caused maybe, but stress isn't just about fear, it is about uncertainty and too much change.
I have some sympathy for the letter writer because she possibly doesn't have understanding of these issues, but quite simply, she is wrong.
Medics tell us that within twenty years, anxiety or/and depression will be the normal human state. Already six billion anti-depressant prescriptions are written in the world each year. The problem has nothing to do with being 'wimps'. It is to do with the pace and expectations of living a 21st Century life that our bodies and minds simply were not programmed for. It is a 24/7 culture were every job has stats and performance criteria to match or you are out. It is a life of high mortgages and the real possibility of homeless. There are so many other factors, some of them self-caused maybe, but stress isn't just about fear, it is about uncertainty and too much change. I have some sympathy for the letter writer because she possibly doesn't have understanding of these issues, but quite simply, she is wrong. Even AndyD
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2:18pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

alfie wrote:
I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
[quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied". CHISSY1
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3:47pm Thu 22 Nov 12

inmandres says...

CHISSY1 wrote:
alfie wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts.
Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general.
I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution.
[quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".[/p][/quote]Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts. Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general. I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution. inmandres
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4:09pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Buzz Light-year says...

CHISSY1 wrote:
Buzz Light-year wrote:
Heather Causnett hasn't a clue.

I call a kind of Godwin's on this letter.

Ok we're not naming Hitler but she does use the extreme case of The Great War as an example why modern peacetime teachers are wimps.
Totally incompatible comparison.

You know what Heather? It hurt indescribably when I had my heart attack. I've never felt anything like it. I was convinced I was going to die.
Now don't you dare ever say even the slightest little thing about your arthritis or the aches and pains of old age because if you do you're just being a wimp.

I know real pain. Proper old-fashioned pain. Not like this namby pamby modern day pain people whinge about.


Anyway, if HC wasn't so busy with all this skewed rose-tinted Daily Mail nonsense and if she thought about it she might have recognised the countless cases of PTSD, the mental illness, alcoholism, wife-beating, suicides etc etc that were the real human reaction to what happened in the middle of last century.
Only a few escaped with their stiff upper lip completely intact...
"You call me nasty,why do you say that i was merely agreeing with Heather,you got a problem with that.Now look at your post regarding Heather.Rude and offensive,you are not a very nice person and we don't want to know your medical history,it is totally irrelevant".
No Chissy you weren't.
This is how you agree with Heather:
CHISSY wrote:
I agree with Heather.


Instead you told another user here they didn't have a clue and you refuse to say why or address that user's points.

That's nasty.
[quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Buzz Light-year[/bold] wrote: Heather Causnett hasn't a clue. I call a kind of Godwin's on this letter. Ok we're not naming Hitler but she does use the extreme case of The Great War as an example why modern peacetime teachers are wimps. Totally incompatible comparison. You know what Heather? It hurt indescribably when I had my heart attack. I've never felt anything like it. I was convinced I was going to die. Now don't you dare ever say even the slightest little thing about your arthritis or the aches and pains of old age because if you do you're just being a wimp. I know real pain. Proper old-fashioned pain. Not like this namby pamby modern day pain people whinge about. Anyway, if HC wasn't so busy with all this skewed rose-tinted Daily Mail nonsense and if she thought about it she might have recognised the countless cases of PTSD, the mental illness, alcoholism, wife-beating, suicides etc etc that were the real human reaction to what happened in the middle of last century. Only a few escaped with their stiff upper lip completely intact...[/p][/quote]"You call me nasty,why do you say that i was merely agreeing with Heather,you got a problem with that.Now look at your post regarding Heather.Rude and offensive,you are not a very nice person and we don't want to know your medical history,it is totally irrelevant".[/p][/quote]No Chissy you weren't. This is how you agree with Heather: [quote]CHISSY wrote: I agree with Heather.[/quote] Instead you told another user here they didn't have a clue and you refuse to say why or address that user's points. That's nasty. Buzz Light-year
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4:41pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

"Okay,so bombs falling around you wondering if you house is still standing is is being scared.
Working 16 hours per day is just being overworked.
Waiting to hear if a loved one is dead or alive is dread.
Scared+overwork+drea
d= stress,do you understand.
You still have not explained what your medical history has got to do with this topic,wanting sympathy ?".
"Okay,so bombs falling around you wondering if you house is still standing is is being scared. Working 16 hours per day is just being overworked. Waiting to hear if a loved one is dead or alive is dread. Scared+overwork+drea d= stress,do you understand. You still have not explained what your medical history has got to do with this topic,wanting sympathy ?". CHISSY1
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4:48pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

inmandres wrote:
CHISSY1 wrote:
alfie wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts.
Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general.
I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution.
"You are so kind,i like to think my comments give people a reason to get out of bed and get their brains working,poor dears they get so wound up?.
[quote][p][bold]inmandres[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".[/p][/quote]Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts. Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general. I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution.[/p][/quote]"You are so kind,i like to think my comments give people a reason to get out of bed and get their brains working,poor dears they get so wound up?. CHISSY1
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5:20pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CynicaloldGit says...

CHISSY1 wrote:
J-Dawg wrote:
But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it.

"Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day"

That's not stress, that's being scared.

"It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive."

Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours.

" It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death."

That was, as you rightly stated, dread.
"You haven't a clue what you are talking about".
Oh yes he has!!
[quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]J-Dawg[/bold] wrote: But now it is a recognised medical condition and therefore you cannot argue with it. "Stress was sleeping under the bed or in a shelter in the garden in all weathers with bombs falling around your home, or hiding in a London Underground shelter, not knowing whether your house would be standing the next day" That's not stress, that's being scared. "It was doing a 16-hour day to help farmers to produce enough food for the country to survive." Again, that's not stress, that's being overworked and we not have legal rights not to be made to do those hours. " It was dreading the telegraph boy bringing news of a dear one’s death." That was, as you rightly stated, dread.[/p][/quote]"You haven't a clue what you are talking about".[/p][/quote]Oh yes he has!! CynicaloldGit
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5:24pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CynicaloldGit says...

CHISSY1 wrote:
alfie wrote:
I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
chissy, try reading your own posts and you will see why you are a nasty piece of work.
When i first read your posts, I wondeder if you had an extra bile duct.
[quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".[/p][/quote]chissy, try reading your own posts and you will see why you are a nasty piece of work. When i first read your posts, I wondeder if you had an extra bile duct. CynicaloldGit
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5:25pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CynicaloldGit says...

inmandres wrote:
CHISSY1 wrote:
alfie wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts.
Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general.
I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution.
Don't take the wee wee, that is rude
[quote][p][bold]inmandres[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".[/p][/quote]Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts. Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general. I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution.[/p][/quote]Don't take the wee wee, that is rude CynicaloldGit
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5:37pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

CynicaloldGit wrote:
CHISSY1 wrote:
alfie wrote:
I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
chissy, try reading your own posts and you will see why you are a nasty piece of work.
When i first read your posts, I wondeder if you had an extra bile duct.
"You "wondeder",what does that mean exactly?".
[quote][p][bold]CynicaloldGit[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".[/p][/quote]chissy, try reading your own posts and you will see why you are a nasty piece of work. When i first read your posts, I wondeder if you had an extra bile duct.[/p][/quote]"You "wondeder",what does that mean exactly?". CHISSY1
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6:56pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Buzz Light-year says...

Even AndyD wrote:
Medics tell us that within twenty years, anxiety or/and depression will be the normal human state. Already six billion anti-depressant prescriptions are written in the world each year. The problem has nothing to do with being 'wimps'. It is to do with the pace and expectations of living a 21st Century life that our bodies and minds simply were not programmed for. It is a 24/7 culture were every job has stats and performance criteria to match or you are out. It is a life of high mortgages and the real possibility of homeless. There are so many other factors, some of them self-caused maybe, but stress isn't just about fear, it is about uncertainty and too much change. I have some sympathy for the letter writer because she possibly doesn't have understanding of these issues, but quite simply, she is wrong.
The letter boils down to "I lived through one of the most awful things ever so most other people don't have a right to their feelings because I don't think they've had it as tough as me."

That's not just wrong it shows a disturbing coldness, a lack of humanity and compassion, an inability to connect, to feel.

Everyone has their story.
It's a hard road to travel and a mighty long way to go for all of us.

As people get older, instead of looking down on those who haven't experienced as much, shouldn't they be sharing the wisdom gained from going through tough times?

Heather Causnett could learn a lot from George Appleby.
[quote][p][bold]Even AndyD[/bold] wrote: Medics tell us that within twenty years, anxiety or/and depression will be the normal human state. Already six billion anti-depressant prescriptions are written in the world each year. The problem has nothing to do with being 'wimps'. It is to do with the pace and expectations of living a 21st Century life that our bodies and minds simply were not programmed for. It is a 24/7 culture were every job has stats and performance criteria to match or you are out. It is a life of high mortgages and the real possibility of homeless. There are so many other factors, some of them self-caused maybe, but stress isn't just about fear, it is about uncertainty and too much change. I have some sympathy for the letter writer because she possibly doesn't have understanding of these issues, but quite simply, she is wrong.[/p][/quote]The letter boils down to "I lived through one of the most awful things ever so most other people don't have a right to their feelings because I don't think they've had it as tough as me." That's not just wrong it shows a disturbing coldness, a lack of humanity and compassion, an inability to connect, to feel. Everyone has their story. It's a hard road to travel and a mighty long way to go for all of us. As people get older, instead of looking down on those who haven't experienced as much, shouldn't they be sharing the wisdom gained from going through tough times? Heather Causnett could learn a lot from George Appleby. Buzz Light-year
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7:01pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Buzz Light-year says...

Wow phantom quote!
I didn't quote EvenAndyD, that just appeared from nowhere.
Wow phantom quote! I didn't quote EvenAndyD, that just appeared from nowhere. Buzz Light-year
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7:14pm Thu 22 Nov 12

Even AndyD says...

Buzz Light-year wrote:
Wow phantom quote!
I didn't quote EvenAndyD, that just appeared from nowhere.
That is okay, mate - I did wonder why you weren't really answering me! :)
[quote][p][bold]Buzz Light-year[/bold] wrote: Wow phantom quote! I didn't quote EvenAndyD, that just appeared from nowhere.[/p][/quote]That is okay, mate - I did wonder why you weren't really answering me! :) Even AndyD
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7:31pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

"Any body care to respond to my last comments,or have i worn you all out?".
"Any body care to respond to my last comments,or have i worn you all out?". CHISSY1
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8:24pm Thu 22 Nov 12

last of the mandms says...

CHISSY1 wrote:
CynicaloldGit wrote:
CHISSY1 wrote:
alfie wrote:
I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
chissy, try reading your own posts and you will see why you are a nasty piece of work.
When i first read your posts, I wondeder if you had an extra bile duct.
"You "wondeder",what does that mean exactly?".
Re wondeder what does it mean? It means someone has made a slight messtake while typing and you lack the imagination to decipher what they meant to say (wondered in case your still wondeding). And, in the spirit of misunderstanding, if by worn you out you mean lost interest, well yes.
[quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]CynicaloldGit[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".[/p][/quote]chissy, try reading your own posts and you will see why you are a nasty piece of work. When i first read your posts, I wondeder if you had an extra bile duct.[/p][/quote]"You "wondeder",what does that mean exactly?".[/p][/quote]Re wondeder what does it mean? It means someone has made a slight messtake while typing and you lack the imagination to decipher what they meant to say (wondered in case your still wondeding). And, in the spirit of misunderstanding, if by worn you out you mean lost interest, well yes. last of the mandms
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9:04pm Thu 22 Nov 12

CHISSY1 says...

CHISSY1 wrote:
"Any body care to respond to my last comments,or have i worn you all out?".
"Just as i thought,all hot air".
[quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: "Any body care to respond to my last comments,or have i worn you all out?".[/p][/quote]"Just as i thought,all hot air". CHISSY1
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10:38am Fri 23 Nov 12

capt spaulding says...

inmandres wrote:
CHISSY1 wrote:
alfie wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.
"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".
Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts.
Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general.
I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution.
And they say satire is on the decline.
[quote][p][bold]inmandres[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]CHISSY1[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]alfie[/bold] wrote: I agree with buzz, chissy is indeed a nasty piece of work, SHE only makes negative comments and like ive said before you need some modern day counseling to help you put the years you obviously got bullied behind you as you are still so angry and bitter.[/p][/quote]"Would you like to explain why you say i am nasty.You are also rude,i take it you were referring to Heather when you mentioned "SHE".And just to put the record straight,i am not angry or bitter nor was i ever bullied".[/p][/quote]Hello CHISSY1. I'm a long-time reader and occasional poster and I'd just like to say how much I enjoy your many thought-provoking and insightful posts. Every one of them demonstrates a deep understanding, not only of the topic in hand but also of the human condition in general. I look forward to reading your next intelligent, educated and highly relevant contribution.[/p][/quote]And they say satire is on the decline. capt spaulding
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